The definition of a narcissist is a person with an over inflated ego who has admiration and love only for the self. Narcissists are those who indulge in one or more of the following sins or ‘thought forms of man’ – pride, envy, gluttony, lust, anger, greed, or sloth. (The ones in bold are the most common of narcissistic behaviors.) Mostly, narcissists have an unreasonable or excessive admiration for their own physical appearance or abilities. They think that they can do no wrong and when they do, they blame the situation, person, or thing for the wrongdoing and never take responsibility for their own actions or choices. A narcissist will never say sorry for what they have done, and if they do, the apology is insincere and only a tactic to get someone to reconnect with them.
Narcissistic people usually develop ‘psychic chords’ to empathic people, because an empath is easy prey for a person who pretends to love and feel, when in fact, they only feed off the emotional hurts they cause an empathic person. What is an empathic person? An empath is a person with the spiritual ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual. An empath will get so caught up in the reality of a narcissist, that they forget or lose the ability to comprehend what is right or wrong for their own energy field, becoming almost obsessed with the narcissist, because they want to help them. There are so many narcissistic people in this world. It is a pandemic, affecting the entire world. There are so many narcissists connecting to the psychic realms of man, which are the states of pride, envy, gluttony, lust, anger, greed, or sloth, that they have disconnected their own essence from Universal source. The psychic realm is the unhealthy realm of man/woman, and the spiritual realm is the healthy realms of the Universe. Psychic is associated with Earth only and Spirituality is associated with the Universe on a much grander scale. To stay living, a person must obtain and sustain their own Soul essence. Narcissists are psychic vampires, causing emotional turmoil in their victim and feeding off the lower vibrational energies of the empath’s emitted emotions or thoughts because they do not have their available essence to sustain their own life. However, once an empathic person becomes aware of the narcissistic unhealthy psychic bond, they will often try to bring it to light or leave the situation, only falling back into the trap of a narcissists charm and lies, several times before the person is too energetically drained to sustain the narcissists’ food sustenance. Once the food source is almost diminished, the narcissist will make an abrupt exit, with no closure or reason for doing so, leaving the empath in a state of despair, depression, and depleted of their their life essence, usually with an illness or sickness that has been caused by the body going out of ease, Dis-ease. The overall reason for this blog post is to help Empathic people become aware, get empowered, and leave the narcissist before it is too late.
The best way to get rid of a narcissistic person is to 1.) Become aware of the patterns of narcissism. 2.) Leave the situation or narcissist. 3.) Become empowered and revived with your own Soul essence, cutting all ties to the narcissist, psychic vampire!
1.) Narcissitic Patterns:
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a ‘lack of empathy‘ for others. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism. When criticism arises or you try to bring up the narcissists lack of connection, they will get extremely upset, heated, and will shut you down, gas lighting you. What is gas lighting? Gas lighting is to manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their self, their own sanity, and making you out to be the ‘bad guy.’ Once a demand is made, the narcissistic person will withdraw than attack in retaliation to the demand that you have created for the relationship. A narcissist is vindictive, having or showing a strong or unreasoning desire for revenge, especially if a demand is made or if you try to set boundaries. A narcissistic person is indifferent to emotional outcomes, meaning, they are not capable of realizing the emotional pain or anguish that they are causing others, because they lack empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
Leaving the Narcissistic person
After realizing the patterns and behaviors of the narcissist, you will either try to help them, which most empaths do, or you will try to leave the situation. The best way to leave the situation is to tell the narcissist that you need your space and incorporate ‘No Contact.’ No contact means, deleting their number, blocking their phone number, not responding to emails, answering the door, etc. It is the only way to completely detach ‘psychically,’ from the narcissistic person. They will not miss you, they will miss the emotional turmoil that they fed off of from you. They will be angry that you have left, but they will find another victim, soon enough. To completely detach psychically, ask Archangel Michael, your Spiritual Guides, or saying an Affirmation to cut all etheric ‘psychic’ chords binding you to the individual. You will more than likely have to do this several times a day, as the person will be on your mind, trying to reconnect to your soul essence.
Example Affirmation: ‘I (First Name, Middle Name, Last Name) disconnect and cut all etheric chords and binds to (Narcissists Name) NOW, beyond space and time, from my past, present, and into my future, from this day forward, until the end of all time. It is so Now!
Your Revival of Soul Essence
There are many ways for you to redirect your attention to something that is more healthy for your Soul. The first thing you will have to do is ask your Angels, Guides, and say an Affirmation for the retrieval of your lost Soul parts. Lost Soul parts, is the essence that the narcissistic person stole from you, leaving you feeling drained, unmotivated, or depressed. You will have to do this many times before you feel back to your old, happy self.
Example Affirmation: I (First Name, Middle Name, Last Name) call back my Spiritual essence from all directions of time and space, from all people, places, and things, by force if necessary, until the end of all time. It is so now!
Exercise, Yoga, and other physical activities help to revitalize your energy. Physical activity, and meditation helps to shut down the ego, so that your Soul essence can be reintegrated into your being. There are also other ways to reconnect with your Spiritual essence. I like to ask my clients: What did you like to do when you were young? What made you happy? What are you passionate about? The answers to these questions will be your saving grace. If you can’t remember or you just don’t know, find a self empowerment group that you can join, or find a therapist that you trust, and delve deeper into your psyche to retrieve these memories to find your passion.
As time passes, it will get easier. Time does heal in these sort of cases. All you have to do is remain strong and dedicated to yourself. Have faith!
‘Faith is the confirmation of things we do not see and the conviction of their reality, perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses.’
~Jesus Calling, by Sarah Young~
Valentina Marie: Owner of The Soul Intention, Ordained Minister, CMT, HHP, Yoga Instructor, Reiki Master